Why you can have it

There is a common experience that happens when women are considering working with me...

....you love to create problems as to why you can't have it.

This could look like blaming yourself as to why you're helpless and great power and transformation is not available to a woman like you.

You have a strong case of "I suck" and that you particularly suck more than other people suck.

You have patterns that are so hard to shift and attend to that you just don't believe it's possible to have something different. 

Or you blame why "you can't have it" on things outside of you people... places, circumstances, that boss of yours perhaps, & time off work? Husband won't approve? Not enough money?

None of these are really actually problems. They are "excuses" as to why you are avoiding looking at the actual reality as to why you don't want to move forward and follow your desire at this time.

You want "transformation" without actually "moving" anywhere to have it. Real transformation and movement starts with self-honesty & willingness.

See what shifts inside of you when I shift these from excuses to truth.

"I suck and I'm incapable" shifts to"I'm feeling unwilling to sit in the discomfort this journey might ask of me at this time."

"It is easier for that woman to say yes because she's more powerful & privileged than me" to "I'm allowing myself to be distracted by other people's journey's and making their choices mean something about me versus inspire me about what's possible."

"My husband would never approve of my desire for this programme" shifts to "I have avoided telling my husband about my desire because I place more value on what he wants than what I want and I am using him as the gatekeeper of my desire."

"I can't afford this programme" shifts to "I haven't been willing to look at WHERE I spend my money and WHY."

Now these are just a few examples. Your reality and fears might look different when you start to do the enquiry as to why you're sitting on your desire to join LE COEUR: the path of the woman.

Often as women we allow ourselves to feel the first flicker of desire, we express interest in the programme and then something stalls.

We stopped nurturing that initial flicker and therefore stopped following the thread of desire to see where it will lead us.

Usually this is because there is some place inside where you'd rather not feel the disappointment of "not being able to have what you want".

Sound familiar?

The reality is:

✨ You might have to nurture your desire with action, love and approval for another three months before you're finally financially ready to make the commitment to yourself.

✨ You might have to have multiple very uncomfortable conversations with your partner (s) or maybe your work place to have this.

I strongly encourage you to be fully honest and transparent with your loved ones about the things you want to commit to.

You don't need to be cutting corners and avoiding conversations to have what you want.

True desire always brings deeper connection because you're communicating truthfully about what you want regardless of outcome.

For example, if the monthly coaching call falls during your work hours (usually the third Thursday of the month between 4-7pm Paris time)....

...I encourage you to make a vulnerable request to your workplace that you'd like to be on a coaching call for at least an 1 hour, maybe 2 or maybe even the full 3 hours (go on, I dare you!) at least once a month.

And that you've invested in yourself financially, energetically and with your time because you really value personal growth and developing your sense of who you are and how you move through the world.

The amount of times I've heard stories of clients making this request (usually because they are inspired to not because I have told them too) and they've been met by a resounding yes and a thank you from their colleague.

All these are examples of others who gave themselves permission to turn their avoidance into the chance they could receive a yes.

Replace any of these conversations above and context with a place in your life you think you can't have something and ask yourself what could be possible if you took a risk and leaned in.

What kind of life would be possible for you if you spent more time with your desire instead of shutting it off at the first hump of discomfort?

At the very least, you start to open up your mind to possibility.

Ultimately, the better your relationship with yourself the more value you bring to yourself AND any relationship in your life. It's a win, win.